The biggest most important lesson to learn about relationships (romantic or otherwise) is that the people we attract are attracted to us based on the relationship with have with ourselves.
Yup. That’s right.
You get to decide you finds you interesting, exciting, fun, and great to be around professionally and personally just by simply cultivating a healthy and conscious relationship with yourself…first!
Here are 7 keys to making the relationship with yourself and others fan-freaking-tastic:
TRUST
Start by believing what you say and make your word your bond. In doing so, give that same gift to those around you. Accept other people at face value and give them the benefit of the doubt first (that doesn’t mean let people walk all over you).
ACCOUNTABILITY
Always be willing to admit when you’ve made a mistake or own it when you were wrong. Accepting responsibility for your values, attitudes, or behaviors goes a long way in creating a sense of self which is what others see in you.
SAFETY
Honor your, and others, personal space bubble. Express yourself without violence. **Check out Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. Do not do things out of fear, obligation or guilt. That is emotional abuse. Secondly, you begin to intimidate yourself to action. It isn’t genuine and feels scary on a deep level. Your soul knows it. Refuse to use those tactics with others to manipulate them into action.
COOPERATION
Be willing to accept change in all areas of your life; let others make changes in theirs. When speaking with others, ask for what you want and may need without expectation. Be willing to compromise, focusing on win / win resolutions when you feel an inner conflict or when in conflict with someone else.
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Always, always, always communicate openly and truthfully. Lying only serves to protect yourself from a perceived fear. As they say, the only way out…is through.
SUPPORT
Give yourself the assistance you need moment by moment with your choices. Do the same for the other people in your life. Be understanding and considerate. Offer encouragement when you or someone else needs it. Listen to your own (or another’s) experience without judgment. Value other people’s opinions even when they may be different from your own.
RESPECT
Treat yourself (and others) in a thoughtful and courteous way. See other people (regardless of age, race, sex, socioeconomic status, etc) as equal to yourself solely because they exist, not due to any of society or the media’s dictations. Have the freedom to be oneself.
These 7 keys can be used at any time and all the time to develop a healthy conscious relationship with yourself.. When using them with others, you extend that gift to them by modeling how you wish to be treated and how they deserve to be treated.
If you are interacting with someone who doesn’t behave in the same way, that is the sign that they do not have a healthy, conscious, respectful relationship with themselves. And if they don’t know how to treat themselves that way, they sure as shit won’t know how to treat you that way.
And you deserve nothing less than this from your family, friends, acquaintances, supervisor, coworkers, colleagues, and beyond.
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